Monogram Etiquette

Since the majority of the designs I create at Belletristics are monograms, or monogram themed, I thought I'd share some "monogram etiquette" and information about monograms.

What is a monogram?

As defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a monogram is "a sign of identity usually formed of the combined initials of a name".
Monogram designs range from a single initial to an elaborate motif that can include initials as well as full names, dates, or graphics.


What is a Wedding Monogram?

A wedding monogram (or married monogram) is generally a logo designed to be used by an engaged couple for their wedding stationery or accessories. After the wedding, the couple can use the monogram on thank you notes, personal stationery, or as a family crest.
A monogram for a married couple usually includes both their first names or initials and their married last name or initial.

What is considered proper etiquette for a wedding monogram?

According to all the "etiquette police" out there, you shouldn't use you married monogram before the wedding. Instead, you could use a monogram with just your first initials or names for all your pre-wedding stationery (save the dates, invitations, thank you cards).

But feel free to throw proper etiquette out the window! These days, it's common to see a couple using their married monogram before the wedding.

So when can I begin using my married monogram?

After the ceremony, is the commonly accepted answer. Some couples prefer to begin using their new monogram during the ceremony (on their programs, aisle runner, or unity candle), but that's up to you!

What order should the names/initials be in?
Traditionally, the ladies name comes first. But like all the other so called rules, you can break this one too!

Keep in mind, these are just guidelines! Ultimately, it's your wedding, so choose a monogram you love, and don't worry about the rest!


If you have any questions about monogram etiquette, feel free to leave a comment, or email me at belletristics {at} gmail {dot} com.